Ever feel your having the year from hell.....

Basil

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Oct 13, 2013
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well here it is, like the title says feels like something or someone is out to get me this year so far its turned into right sh*t. I'll list it below tell me if it make you'd think the same or i'm just strange in the head.
usually i fairly positive but even for me i'm starting to feel this a bit now

1.my father in law died on jan 4th on my birthday with a heart attack.

2.my uncle got cancer diagonsed in prosrate removed this said he was clear, now it turns out hes got it in other parts of his body and they having to give treatment in london for next 6 weeks im lead to believe to try to fix it, theres no guarntees though.

3. got made redundant from my job back in end sept. still looking had a job lined up but fell thru to budgets not being their so another kick in the teeth.

4.a month after getting made redundant got bells palsy where side of your face drops like having a stroke but not a stroke.
had to have ambulance out and wife freaking out thinking i'm going the way of her father, poor sod. Face is getting better slowly but will take time. 30% fixed so far

5.yesterday to top it all off the bloody gas cookers given up the ghost. new one being delivered tommorrow but could have done without it.

but this has been my year so far i'm just praying next year is going to be better with alot more positives than negatives i've had so far.

my birthdays coming up my 40th lol and to be honest im dreading it because every birthday from now on will just be a reminder that her father died on my birthday and that will never change just she will always be upset on my birthday, which is the worse bit for me and there is not a thing i can do to change that.

anyway
yours who's just feeling a little bit screwed up atm to say the least.

basil (n):bag:
 
Basil, I am so sorry to hear 2014 was filled with tragedy and worry. All the best to you and your family-I hope a more positive year is ahead.
 
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Mate I have found things go in cycles a few good years then a spanner thrown in on the spin bit of the wash. Just one thing after the other . Heath , relitives , house , kids , car you just think everything is going good then BAM .

Ok first off the Bells Palsy stress related , IF anyone has a problem with how you look it is THIRE problem not yours . You will get better they will always be small minded bigots.

Job will come along fate deales us a hand that we don't always know or understand . Would your employer have been understanding about any appointments ? Time off needed ? . Take stock why not re skill or do something diffrent job wise that you would never have tryed .

Your Uncal one thing I have faith in and I dont have a lot of faith in meny things is the Drs and Nurses in the MARVELOUS N.H.S . Thing is we only hear when things go wrong never when they go well . Hand on heart I hope things go well for him I'll send as meny positive vibes that I can.

The cooker better it has broke now than you using it and anyone you cook for being ill at best dead at the worst.

Your birthday will be hell for your wife . My 40th in July my Dad died in the Feb and no cards no gifts no life for 3 years after. The first year is HELL .Slowly the pain and loss changed and things have normilised a lot more now. Try and concider a belated or erlier date . One of my friends thought thire was no acknowledgement because I was stresessd at being 40 . Just a date I fent no diffrence from being 39 to being 40 .

Spend time together the Hubby got me through it all thats what being married having a partnership is compromising , adjustment even when you don't want to especially when you don't want to.

I say without the s*** you don't get the beautiful roses to grow. Without all the stress sorrow uncertainty we would never know when the good times are rolling over us.

Besides @Basil you have something that very few have and that is us Ninjas here as soundboard's ,friends genuine people who do care.

You need ANYTHING just coversation everlope thing Love Ann Scary :)
 
Basil mate, it does sound like you've had it pretty tough over the last year. More pain and stress than many of us have had in a while.

It's bound to be tough but try and go into next year as positively as you can. You have a wife that has been through this all with you and she will want your support as much as you want hers.

Just a suggestion regarding your birthday (based on very similar experience)... I think you need to give up your birthday for a couple of years while your wife gets through the grief of it all. Maybe have 'your day' a month later for example and keep the two things as separate as possible. It will feel right soon enough that you get your birthday back, but it's not something you can rush really.

I wish you a full and speedy recovery and all the best for the coming year. 40 is just the start and you've got your best years ahead of you!! :thumbs:

Chin up bud
 
i feel for you Basil !

my last couple of years have not been nice either, so i do know how you might feel.

i wish all good to you !

cheers,

Nef
 
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Sorry to hear mate. Had a pretty bad year myself. Both my folks in hospital. Then i lost my dad. Then had a car accident. Lost the car & was injured.

Im glad this year is over. All the best to you too mate
 
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Sorry to hear that Basil hope next year turns out better for you mate and stay strong wishing you good luck for the future...
 
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Sorry to hear of all the bad news you have had recently. Really feel for you.
Hopefully a new year will bring good times back to your life.
Stay strong and stay positive. You have many friends on here and we're all here for you.
Take care
 
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Keep your head up mate.

The brightest days are born from the darkest nights. I hope 2015 is better one for you :thumbs:
 
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